When you tell others you are a caregiver, or tell friends things you’ve done, how is it that you are telling them?  This week I run into another caregiver and every time I have, she speaks that she is deeply annoyed at having to be a caregiver.  And to her credit, she has done so for a little under 10 years and done so faithfully.  But clearly, she is annoyed.

It makes me think of how I present caregiving to others.  A role to be pitied?   Something hard for someone to feel sorry about?

How we think matters.  How we present matters.  As that will affect us.  Is it a great privilege to do the holy work of walking someone through their last days?  Or is it a great burden?  How are we thinking about this?  How are we presenting it to others?