Grief is something none of us want to face. We all dread it. There’s nothing that adequately prepares us for it. And we never know how we will truly respond. The last few weeks it seems like several of those around me have lost loved ones. Some with gentle deaths and some with terrible, horrible exits from this life. And it’s made me visit this issue again.
Most blog posts deal with the theme of coping with grief and just surviving. While I may experience that for a season, I hope I don’t stay in that camp. Losing those we love will always leave scars and we tears may fill our eyes at the mention of a name for the rest of our lives, but it doesn’t mean we have to bleed forever. Scars? yes. But grief doesn’t need to take up residence and take over ownership.
So how do we have good grief? Honestly I can tell you plainly that as a caregiver while I’ve braced for it, I have yet to deal with it. I’m not speaking as an authority. A few close calls but we’re back to living and not surviving (thank you Jesus!). Having said that, I don’t feel it’s fair to offer 5 Steps to Overcome Grief or 3 Ways to Deal with the Loss of a Loved One. Not that those really help anyway.
What I can offer is that when I worked at a Christian bookstore, there was one book that we sold regularly on grieving. It is dirt cheap and everyone I talked to highly recommended it. I personally am not emotionally in a position to read it. I don’t know that I will be until that time comes. But I can recommend it based on the recommendations of others. So here it is–Good Grief:
I do hope this is helpful for you. And perhaps even a good recommendation for a friend. If you read it and would like to review it, please do so in the comments below. Thank you and while grieving may be the most painful thing you’ve ever experienced, may the Lord walk with you through it all.