It’s the mystery for caregivers across the world. Your loved one is confused, sees things, is up all night, is stuck on knowing which home they are in even when they are home, and then a visitor comes.
When a friend or relative comes, it’s like they don’t have any symptoms at all. Their clear-minded, socialable, laugh and things are like normal. And then as soon as that person leaves, your loved one falls right back into their state of confusion.
It makes it difficult because other family members don’t see what the big deal is. “There’s nothing much wrong with her.” “Why can’t you handle it?” “This is no big deal.”
But you know the truth.
You’ve encountered what’s called “showtime.”
It’s the last part of the brain to be affected by some of the brain diseases and socially when someone new enters the scene, the brain activates to meet them on a “normal” level. It’s not a bad thing at all, but it makes the caregivers look like they don’t know what they are talking about because others can’t see the problem.
One part in this journey is to know that others will never understand. They just won’t. Unless they enter into the suffering, they will always judge it from the outside.
But be comforted. God sees. God knows. And he cares that you are caring for one of his own. Not just one of your own.